Rejection is a part of life. Whether you are a student, small business owner, wife/ husband or an international business tycoon, you will have experienced rejection at some point.
Have you been rejected at an interview? Has your client rejected a proposal? Has your teacher rejected your presentation?
I can honestly answer YES to all of the above!
For many, being rejected is difficult to deal with. Some people don’t even make the effort to start a project or express their thoughts due to the overwhelming fear of rejection. A minority of our population do bounce back after a considerable period of time after rejection, but some spend the rest of their years recovering and not daring to try.
How we deal with rejection is embedded within our minds. We need to stop wallowing in self-pity, suck it up, and move one. Imagine the world we could live in if people did not become discouraged from rejection but instead used it as a catalyst to learn and grow?
Here are the key tips to handling rejections in your business and personal life:
Tell yourself ‘This will pass’
Rejection doesn’t last forever. The thing you have been rejected for and are most worried about now; next year will not be a second thought. Keep reminding yourself this is only temporary. You never know, you may even be thankful for the experience in the future. In fact, I am sure you will.
Try something new
I am a huge believer in trying something new. There is nothing worse than after rejection, going back to your old, mundane routine. Breakout of this mindset, this should be a time you are more willing and adventurous. Post rejection is a time to discover a newfound sense of being. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and try something new.
Do not be afraid to ask why you have been rejected. If a client decides not to go with your proposal, request some honest feedback and ask why? If a university rejects your application, ask why? If you have been rejected for a job you applied for, ask why?
Only by asking do we find out why we have been rejected. If you know what went wrong, you can make changes for the next time you try.
Learn from it!
After rejection, it would be easy to crawl into a cave and hide away from society. Ok, a little over the top, but it’s not a cliché to learn from being rejected. It doesn’t matter if you have made a mistake, as long as you learn from it. Go back to the drawing board, make a plan B, and move forward. Just don’t hide away.
Consider Online Counselling
On a serious note, if rejection is debilitating for you and the thought of speaking with someone in person creates further anxiety, then consider online counseling. Whilst you will still have to book, there are thousands of licensed therapists with rejection focussed niches who can really help.